Letter 34

 Letter 34: Protecting Our Parenting Vision


Dear Partner,


I’ve been thinking lately about how easy it is to get pulled off course—especially when so many people around us have strong opinions about how we should raise our children.


Family, friends, even strangers sometimes feel entitled to comment on what’s “best” for our kids. And while advice can be valuable, we have to remember: *not every opinion belongs in our parenting journey.*


We created a vision together—a vision rooted in love, respect, responsibility, and emotional health. And protecting that vision requires conscious choices every day.


It means that when others question why we set certain boundaries, we stay firm without guilt. It means that when people judge our choices about education, discipline, or even simple routines, we remind ourselves that they don’t live the consequences—we do.


It’s tempting, sometimes, to bend under pressure. To agree just to keep peace. To doubt ourselves because someone else’s voice is louder or more confident. But the truth is: no one else understands our children the way we do. No one else feels the heartbeat of our home the way we do.


Our job isn’t to impress outsiders. Our job is to raise emotionally strong, kind, independent souls.


And yes, that might look different from what our parents did. It might feel unfamiliar to others who cling to “the way things have always been.” But change often looks like rebellion before it’s recognized as wisdom.


When we stand united, we show our children what it means to lead with courage and clarity. We show them that loving others doesn't mean surrendering your values. We show them that healthy boundaries are a form of deep love, not rejection.


Let’s hold onto the vision we made together. Let’s trust the instincts we’ve sharpened through real experience, not just tradition. Let’s build a home where our children grow not to please the world—but to honor themselves and live with authenticity.


We are their guides, their safe harbor. And protecting that role is one of the greatest gifts we can give them.


Standing strong together,  

Your Partner 


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