Letter 33

Letter 33: Building a Partnership That Our Children Can Trust


Dear Partner,


Today I want to talk about something that goes deeper than chores, decisions, or even disagreements:  

**The kind of partnership we are showing our children through the way we live together.**


Every day, with every small action, we are teaching them what partnership means.  

If they see us working as a team—sharing responsibilities, listening with respect, treating each other’s dreams and worries seriously—they learn that love is a shared effort, not a burden one person carries alone.


If instead they see resentment, silent suffering, or one parent always taking the blame or doing the invisible work, they learn something very different. They may grow up thinking that relationships are about power instead of mutual support. They may believe that love means exhaustion or silence instead of communication and strength.


That’s not the legacy we want for them.


Partnership isn’t about being perfect, or about keeping score. It’s about standing side by side when things are beautiful—and especially when they are not. It’s about asking, “How can I help lighten your load today?”  

It’s about understanding that **we don’t just share a house—we are building a life together.**


We need to let our kids see us apologize when we fall short. Let them hear us encourage each other. Let them see us consult each other with respect when decisions need to be made.  

Not because we owe them a performance, but because the security of their world depends on seeing that the people guiding them are capable of growth, humility, and partnership.


There will be days when we get it wrong—and that’s okay. What matters is that we return to each other with intention. That we remind ourselves, and our children, that love is not about domination or sacrifice—it’s about collaboration, commitment, and care.


Let’s be the partnership that makes them believe in love, trust, and teamwork.


For us. For them. For the generations after them, too.


Always building with you,  

Your Partner 

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