Letter 8


Letter 8: Protecting Our Children From Emotional Manipulation

Dear Partner,

One of the most important roles we have as parents is to protect our children—not just physically, but emotionally. They are sensitive to the world around them, and they pick up on things that we might not always notice.

It’s crucial that we shield them from emotional manipulation, whether it's from outside sources or even from subtle behaviors within our own family dynamics. Our children should never feel responsible for the happiness of adults. They should never be made to feel guilty or burdened by the emotions of others.

This includes ensuring that they are not caught in the middle of conflict. Our kids should never feel like they have to choose sides between us or other family members. It’s not their responsibility to mediate grown-up issues. Instead, they need to feel that they have a safe space with us—where they can trust us to handle our own struggles without making them feel like they need to carry the weight of our problems.

They should never be made to feel that their love for one parent will disappoint the other, or that their role is to "fix" the emotional needs of those around them. This might look like someone asking them to “tell the truth” or “take sides” in an argument. It could be an attempt to guilt them into doing something they’re uncomfortable with, or placing them in the middle of adult disagreements.

This behavior might not always be obvious, but it’s important for us to be vigilant. It’s our job to step in when necessary and protect our children from emotional manipulation, setting clear boundaries with those who might unknowingly or knowingly use them for their own emotional gain.

Let’s be the parents who create a safe, healthy environment—where our children feel free to express themselves without fear of being pulled into adult drama. Let’s teach them that love is about honesty, support, and care, not manipulation or guilt.

By protecting them from emotional manipulation, we allow them to grow up free from emotional burdens that aren't theirs to carry. We give them the freedom to be children—learning, growing, and experiencing life without the weight of adult issues on their shoulders.

Together, let’s make our home a space where emotional safety is our top priority.
Let’s build trust, where our children know they can rely on us to keep them safe, no matter what.

With love and protection,
Your partner 


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